This is the true story of two individuals, chosen to work on the same team at Risdall Marketing Group. What you are about to read is not only true, it’s real. Find out what happens when two people stop using traditional methods of communication and start using social networks.
I got a date via twitter. By Jason Douglas
Yes, the above statement is no lie. This past weekend, I drove to Iowa to go on a date with a lady I met on twitter. Let me give you the background on how I came to the conclusion that it would be a good idea to drive 250 miles away from home to meet someone I’ve never met in person for a weekend.
My twitter account has become increasingly popular within the last two months. Rarely do I go a day without gaining at least one new follower. It took some time to get going, to establish myself as someone who wasn’t ‘tweeting’ about what I had for lunch, how someone stared at me, or how I stared at them back. When I gain a new follower, I try to send a direct message to the new follower thanking them for following me, and ask them why they started following me. Was it an interesting tweet I posted? Was there something in my bio that we have in common? When I was writing my message to this lady, I thought nothing of it; she was another follower that I was glad to have. She, along with everyone else who I’ve sent a message to, never replied.
A few days passed; I would see her tweets mixed among the many others I view on my profile. At this time, I was trying to create conversation with my followers by sending @ messages to see how many would reply. I remember that she tweeted about going on a date. I sent her an @ message wishing her good luck, and assumed I wouldn’t receive a reply; figured that I wasn’t the only one sending that same message. Later that night, she sent me a direct message telling me that the ‘date went ok-I’m just not interested. Oh well. Bummer. Next!’ You might think that this is where I found my opening, thinking this is my chance to finally incorporate dating into twitter. This was the beginning of our communication; I never thought it would lead to a future date.
The message began a friendship; we would send a couple messages to each other, getting to know each other a little better with each message. Direct messages eventually led to facebook friendship, where we would communicate through their chat client. The next step was text messaging; which became increasingly regular. We finally thought that going ‘old-school’ and talking on the phone would be the natural next step to get to know each other. I started to think at this point ‘is this how all twitter relationships: friend, more than friend, progress?’ I liked how things were progressing with this lady; she seemed smart, she looked very pretty in the pictures I had seen; so I was becoming more willing to see what was there with her. After our first phone conversation, which lasted nearly three hours, I felt more assured that she was 100% real, and that going out was inevitable. We continued to talk on the phone on most nights, and planned out a time we would get together. I decided that I would go down to Iowa to visit her for the weekend.
Upon telling co-workers, friends, my roommate, their reactions were mixed. Some were very open and receptive to my plans; others thought I was completely nuts. With online dating, there is that small risk that who you’ve chatted, texted, talked to on the phone, is not who they say they are. I had an experience a few years ago where a girl I met online gave me a couple pictures of ‘herself’. Upon meeting her, it was very clear that the girl I met and the girl I saw online were two completely different people. I felt that with this lady, there was zero chance of that happening. It’s much easier to do research on someone if you have any doubts; checking a facebook profile, myspace, google searching their name. Sure, Iowa isn’t 15 minutes away; I had developed a relationship with her enough to feel comfortable to make the 250 mile trek each way to see what was there.
How did the date go? It was awesome! We went to lunch, shared a ‘far out’ car wash experience, went to an Iowa Chops hockey game, then to a place that’s similar to Dave & Buster’s; I found out she’s pretty good at air hockey. Final analysis: she is prettier in person; an absolute sweetheart. We had good chemistry throughout the day/night. The trip was very much worth it; I would do it again in an instant.
Some questions to consider: even though there are sites like match.com, eHarmony.com, and chemistry.com; don’t sites like myspace, facebook, even twitter have the potential to become another way of dating? With the ability to search for people, search by interest, location, etc., look at their profiles, you can get a lot of the ‘first date’ attributes out of the way before directly communicating with them. Twitter makes perfect sense. Already, there are many social gatherings planned via ‘#tweetups’, where you get people from a certain area together to put faces to their twitter handle, and talk in person as you would online. If ‘#tweetups’ are acceptable, why couldn’t twitter dating be considered a viable option?
That’s my story on how I got a date via twitter. I’m glad it happened, and I’m excited to see what the future holds.
My questions to you:
- Have you ever been on a date with someone you met online?
- If yes, what site did you meet on?
- If no, would you consider online dating?
- If no, why is online dating not an option for you?
- Would you consider twitter a place to meet people for dating?
follow Jason Douglas on Twitter: @jasondouglas